Today is Darrell's birthday. It hasn't been a very difficult day yet its hung in the background of my mind.
There were so many things I thought about writing about, I had a whole list of things sorted out in my mind about what he taught me and how he made me a better person, but instead I sit here in my robe remembering one of his most special birthdays.
Darrell hated his birthday being in December. He said that as a kid he always got combination Christmas and Birthday gifts. He rarely got parties because of its proximity to Christmas. So when we got married I promised myself that I would always make a big deal out of his birthday. One year we were living in Little Rock and we hadn't been away alone together in a very long time. With quite a bit of planning I planned a weekend away to Hot Springs. I found places for the kids to go and made reservations at a bed and breakfast. When Darrell wasn't paying attention I packed a bag for him and myself and hid it in the car. The only thing I told him was that I had a special day planned for us.
We left Saturday morning with me driving; he had no idea where we were even going but about halfway there I told him we were going to Hot Springs. We got there and wandered around the small downtown, eating lunch at a little cafe. About 4:30 I told him there was somewhere special I was taking him for a snack. The bed and breakfast, Lookout Point, served drinks and cookies at 5:00. I drove there and he was completely clueless and confused as to why we were parking outside a bed and breakfast. When we got out of the car I opened the trunk and showed him our suitcase. He was very pleasantly surprised.
It was wonderful weekend, although very short but Darrell loved surprises and he knew how much effort I had made to make it all happen and to keep it a surprise for him. I think he would say it was his best birthday ever. So what does that have to do with my robe?
The bed and breakfast was a very nice place and they had robes and slippers for the guests. The robes had a super soft outside fabric and the inside was French terry cloth, a very soft, fine terry cloth. When I put the robe on and loved it, reveled in it actually. When we got home, I opened the suitcase up to unpack and a robe was in there. I looked at Darrell in surprise and smiling he said "I knew you loved it so much that I bought it for you."
So I sit here tonight, tired but enveloped in love, finding it hard to believe it was only 5 years ago. Its seems like a lifetime.
Sunday, December 21, 2008
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9 comments:
My dear sweet friend....what a loving memory!
I smile because of the love that comes through your words remembering this moment that you both had together.
I feel as if I been given the honor of being able to share it with both of you!
xo...deb
"Happy Birthday Darrell"!
I can see why you were meant for each other. It's obvious that you both cared a great deal about the other...thanks for sharing.
I can feel your love for him through your words and I also feel the comfort your getting in that robe!
You are such an amazing woman, thank you for sharing these wonderful memories with us!
happy birthday to darrell in heaven. i read more of your story this morning and it moved me to tears. i am at once so sorry for your loss and so moved by your courage. thank you for sharing this story.
I am just finding out about your husband...I never knew your story until coming to your book site today. What a wonderful memory to cherish, but how hard it must be for you...I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing and I am sure that others are being blessed because of it.
Thank you for always making me smile~
That is a tender sweet memory that so few people ever have with their spouses. You are blessed to have a husband like that, and he is blessed to have a wife like you. And I'm not talking past, because you still have each other. I hope the rest of his birthday was good to you.
Denise, I can not wait to read your entire book. You are a great writer and have a way of telling your story. Can't wait until it is in print and I can read it all. What you have on your blog has brought several tears.
Denise...I have visited your other blog but I've some how never been here....
I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine. You are such a beautiful family and I have a feeling your blog will be one I visit often now that I've found it.
Blessings to you-
Marcy from CCAI WCP group
I sit here covered in goose bumps. This is true love! Thanks for sharing!
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